Ever since I started blogging, all I ever wanna do is talk. I wanna talk about all the exciting things in my life, what trend I’m loving right now (my latest obsession with sock boots), or what sunglasses make me feel extra extra. There’s a lot of things to talk about but I also wanna start talking more openly about other stuffs too… Those stuff that are always a constant at the back of our minds. It’s easy to talk about what latest beauty product will leave you feeling and looking like a Unicorn but what about those stuff that you know and I know but are always harder to talk, think or type about?
Sharing an aspect of my life online with you all is abso-fooking-lutely amazing, you guys are literally The Best!!!, but sometimes to totally and truly connect with someone you need to know every itty-bitty truth of what’s going on in the person’s head and heart.
So, let’s talk……
We’ve all at one point or the other seen someone on Instagram and thought, “wow, I wish I looked like that…”
Hey, even I fall into the trap of comparing myself to what I see on Instagram!! It’s so difficult not to. Beautiful people! Beautiful locations! Everything always looks perfect. And even though some part of our mind KNOWS nothing is ever perfect, that’s not what we think about when we’re browsing social media.
Instead, we compare. You know the one where you ask yourself those questions that you don’t have the answers. Why doesn’t my body look like that? Why isn’t my relationship that perfect? Why am I not traveling the world?
Don’t even get me started on likes and followers. Somehow, no matter how much I KNOW that these numbers don’t define me, I still get affected when I lose followers and when a picture I post doesn’t get as many likes as I think it “should” have. Some might say you’re being silly, but it’s the truth we don’t want to admit. Because it is seems RIDICULOUS! Why do we seek validation from people when we know the opinions of others (especially people we don’t know) shouldn’t have so much power over us! We might tell ourselves that these likes and comments or people’s opinions don’t affect us but who are we kidding? THEY DO!!!
People would tell you, “It’s All About How You See Yourself”. People preach “Selflove” everyday. But how do you “love yourself” when the picture you spent so much effort posing for or editing only gets 5 likes (and those likes were probably from your friends and family)? BRUTAL!!!
The irony is the fact that it’s usually those with thousands and millions of followers that always tell you to “love yourself”. It’s those with perfect bodies (hourglass figure, 0% body fat, no bulges or love handles, no cellulite, no stretch marks) that tell you to “love your body”.
The truth is that social media gives you a peek into one part of someone’s life. Just one teeny tiny part. You only see a glimpse. But then we become convinced this glimpse is representative of all other aspects.
I don’t have the answers on how to battle social media insecurity (Does anyone really have the answers?) but here are some tips that can be truly helpful:
- Take a Break.
Sometimes you need to take a break from your phone. Log off. Put the phone down and go old school (before technology became that needy boyfriend or girlfriend in constant need of your attention).
Spend more time taking walks outside, read a good book or watch a movie with a glass of Red Wine or Rosé, treat yourself to a spa day, buy yourself some flowers or something sparkly (or some sewing fabric, in my case). Be around people you love and who love you back. Surround yourself with badass queens and kings where you can empower and help each other to grow. Take as much ME time as you can possibly take.
- Positive Vibes Only
It’s easy to get lost in the negative and focus on everything you think is wrong with you or on what you don’t have. When these thoughts creep up, that’s when you need to switch up your thoughts.
That person you wish you looked like? They have days when they are unhappy. None of us are perfect. None of us have it all figured out. Social Media only shows the best. It doesn’t show the nights with puffy faces from crying, It doesn’t show the self-doubt, It doesn’t show failure.
Not to sound like a broken record but There’s only one YOU!!! That’s a truth you need to take with you everyday.
We all have so many talents to offer the world. Let’s try to not get caught up in the comparison.
So, tell yourself you are beautiful, grab your friend and tell them they’re beautiful, tap the woman in front of you in the supermarket and tell them you like their jacket, and learn to love yourself and be confident in the life you’ve chosen.
You are more than an IG post. You are more than a screenshot.
You are so, so much more.💛💛💛
How do you guys deal with social media insecurity? Is it something that ever bothers you or do you not pay it much attention?